Sex after 50!

Growingold, by no way means the end of ones' sex life. Yet, the fact remains that theaging process causes certain irrevocable emotional and physical changes whichcan sometimes affect the ability to enjoysex.
In most cases, women enjoy sexmore as they grow old because post menopause or a hysterectomy, they no longersuffer from the fear of an unwanted pregnancy."Our sex life has become betteras our relationship has grown. Being with each other and knowing one anotherover the years have added to our chemistry," smiles 57-year-old social workerMona.
She further adds,"Aging is a natural process, but that should not stop us from enjoying our sexlives. The love, trust and care we have developed over the years looking pastour respective imperfections is what makes our sexual relationship all the morespecial".
A study conducted by the Universityof California suggests that in the West, two-thirds of men and women above theage of 50 enjoy satisfying sexual relationships and 80 per cent of them weresatisfied with their ability to enjoy sex. About half of the men and one-thirdof the women revealed that sex was an extremely important aspect of their lives.These studies bust the preconceived notion that a couple's sex drive goes downwith age.
Psychologist Dr.Samir Parikh insists, "Feeling sexy has nothing to do with one's grey hair orwrinkles. It's all within oneself. Some women tend to think that grey hair orwrinkles make them less attractive to their sexual partner. However, if a womanbelieves being young or being able to give birth makes her more feminine, shemay begin to worry about her desirable quotient. That might make sex lessenjoyable for her".
"There are a lot of people who feelthat age is tightly correlated with sexual activity or interest," says ProfessorEdward Laumann, University of Chicago. It's important for couples to bear inmind that sex involves more than mere penetration. All kinds of touch arestimulating and pleasurable.
"Being sexually active doesn'talways have to mean that you are both in the mood for physical intimacy.Sometimes, it could just mean taking some time from your mundane schedule togive your partner pleasure because that is what you want to do for them.Masturbation (self or mutual) is also a way to keep sexually active," suggests55-year-old, retired army officer Karandeep Singh.
Experts recommend taking thetime to explore each other's bodies and find out what turns your better half on.Touch is a great alternative to intercourse. It can simply mean holding eachother, cuddling with each other while watching a movie or a play or evenindulging in a sensual massage to stimulate each other'.
Ways topep up your sexlife
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Waysto pep up your sexlife:
Communicationis key: Often, couples over time stoptalking to each other. But it's important to remember that communication helpsbuild the sexual bond even stronger. Discuss frankly what changes your partneris going through psychically, which can help you understand each other better."Coffee and conversation always works. Opening up the lines of communication,when both partners are willing to try something can be arousing in itself. Trustme it helps!" confides Romesh Sharma, a 58-year-old research analyst.
Divya Shah, a 56-year-olddoctor whose intimate conversations led to the ignition of their dull sex livessays, "I had stopped having orgasms a long while ago, but I had stopped talkingto my man about my needs. Then one day my husband directly confronted me saying,"Honey let's talk about us." I was so touched and I felt he still cared for myphysical needs."
Normal isboring: At times, incorporating a fewsmall changes in your daily routine can work wonders. Like changing the time ofthe day when you have sex to the time when you have the most energy. If youalways make love on weekends, try a few mid-week breaks. "With age my partnerand I felt that we should experiment with life to make it more colourful. Istarted surprising my husband often and needless to say, each time we ended upfeeling charged up," shares Mona.
Createromance: You need to explore ways to keepup the spark in your love life. Explore each other's bodies with an invigoratingmassage or just try saying "I love you" when least expected, as this will createa stronger bond of trust. "My husband is in itself a surprise bag; he comes upwith all the out of the box ideas which actually acts as a catalyst in ourrelationship, right from going for a drive at midnight to going to terrace andshouting out my name," says Latika, a 52-year-old homemaker.
Havereasonable expectations: One's expectationwhen it comes to sex should be reasonable and one should know that with age ourbodies respond differently. Karandeep talks on the lines of practicality andsays, "At the age of 50 and above, I personally think one should know andrespect the changes in one's body and thereafter keep their expectationsrealistic".
Take care of yourself: A healthy diet, regular exercise andproper relaxation helps to keep your body and mind in good shape. Regularexercise can increase sexual frequency and improve performance. "I make it apoint to go for a walk everyday for at least half and hour and engage in a lotof physical activities which keeps me active and helps live up to theexpectations of my husband," confides Latika.
Benefits ofbeing sexually active as you get older:
Sex burns fat and boosts your immunesystem.
Sex causes the brain torelease endorphins ��� the body's natural pain relievers.
Sex relieves stress and makes youfeel good.
Sexually active peoplepossess higher levels of naturally produced sex hormones. In other words: Use itor lose it!
If you are sexuallyactive throughout your life, the physical changes that come with aging may beless pronounced and sexuality is usually less affected.
Having sex takes up about as muchenergy as walking up two flights of stairs, so sex is rarely dangerous. If youhave any health-related concerns, consult your physician.
Being sexually active contributes tophysical and emotional health. But a word of caution - sexually transmittedinfections knows no age boundary, so practice safe sex.
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